Are You Ready To Lose Yourself? Neither Am I!

Betrayal, insecurity, rejection…we’ve all been there. At some point or another in life we’ve each sat and asked ourselves ‘why am I not good enough?’…but here’s the thing. You and I both, we’re good enough. We were always good enough.

My story is probably a fairly common one — I didn’t care about my appearance, about fashion, about anything even remotely related…and I was happy like this for most of my life. However, I got cheated on and I started doubting myself, questioning myself, and degrading myself for not having been good enough. I realized I looked okay, but I thought to myself what if I look absolutely stunning just to get back at him, to prove to him what an amazing thing he lost…and thus began my plan. I learned all about fashion, makeup, clothes, shoes, all of it — but in the midst of this I found that I was legitimately enjoying myself, and the more I enjoyed it the less I felt the need to prove to him that I was worthy. I didn’t care what he thought, or what anyone else thought. I had gained new confidence and with it, inner peace and satisfaction. When I changed my appearance, I changed the way I thought about myself. I didn’t need anyone else’s approval to love myself and enjoy how I looked.

The big moment was when I went abroad for the first time after changing my look — and I found that people could and did like me for who I was, that I could have friends, and was a likeable person. From here on out I changed myself not because I had a vendetta, but because I wanted to see where I could go with it, what I could accomplish. There was an issue with this however…I wasn’t exactly very good. It took a lot of experimentation and a lot of failing before I discovered my own style and with it my own voice. I stuck to my own voice no matter what anyone else said, no matter the criticisms, and when I did that, I learned to trust myself, to love myself, and to be purely and utterly myself in every possible way.

In the end, all of this means that I found a passion of helping others overcome the same difficulties with self-acceptance that I did.

This story is why I started The Naturess Company — devoted to helping women find confidence and beauty in themselves.